There was a time in my life when I believed I was responsible for everyone's happiness. My dreams were less important than the needs of those I loved. It wasn't until five years ago, when I dared to ask, "What do I want? If I wasn't afraid and didn't play by the rules I'd been taught, or spent time worrying about other's opinions, how would I live my life?"
These questions terrified me, because if I said what I really desired then I'd be vulnerable and furthermore responsible for my own happiness, but I took the scariest step I've ever taken and I wrote down everything I desired. I was shocked at all the dreams I listed - 101 total. Who knew I wanted so much? Somehow in caring for everyone else I hadn't understood how big my spirit wanted to become.
Five years after making my list, everything has changed and it's been an incredible journey to actively pursue my dreams and complete 91 of them. I've lived on the edge feeling as if I were constantly jumping off cliffs not just hoping the parachute would open, but wondering if I had enough material to sew it together on the way down, but it's been worth it.
I'm at a point where I believe that my journey can be an example that our dreams are the roadmap to the life we're meant to live.
I want to help others to experience their own list of dreams: the friend who went through depression this year and is trying to find her way; my mother who spent five years giving up her life to care for my grandmother and doesn't know where to begin to take care of herself; the friend in a bad relationship who's stopped believing their could be more; the young designer who's giving everything she has and wondering if her business and dream will fail in the end; and for all the women who get up everyday and selflessly give to their families with their whole heart while putting themselves last.
I believe women are caregivers by nature, and if they unite in the importance of fulfilling their dreams the world will be a better place. Maybe that's asking for too much, but I come from a long line of women who've given up their dreams to give to others. I broke that cycle and realized that I can give so much more when I feel fulfilled. I hope you'll join me and spread the word. Let's create a community that unites in the beauty of the female spirit and what we can achieve through how we give of our hearts - starting by giving to ourselves.
Put aside whatever's stopping you. Forget the reasons you can't have what you desire. Join us and have some fun!