The words I hear more often than anything else when someone speaks about going after their dreams is, "First I need to put some things in order." There's always a 'someday' reason: money; when the kids finish high school/ college; need to lose weight; become more positive; when I can stop taking care of others; when I find a new job; when I finish this project; after I take this course; I don't know how to do it. The list goes on and on. The motivational business in this country has become as large as the weight loss industry most often times crossing over to take even more dollars from your wallet. But all these products haven't made people happier. There are more life coaches, seminars, gurus, books, videos, and audios than ever before. Today I received an email for a program that's sold over 100,000 copies at $100 to help people unlock their abundance blocks through this audio program.
There are techniques to let go of the past, heal your inner child, heal your relationships, quiet your mind, heal your body, and pursue your dreams. What I find is that most people become addicted to buying these products. I know I love getting the newest workout from Beach Body - mainly because I love the challenge - but for many it's the new pie in the sky that is going to make them into what they believe they should be by following someone else's plan.
Here's the truth - there's never going to be perfect timing. You're never going to have all the knowledge you need to go after what you want. It isn't about a mindset, income to debt ratio, your weight, your relationship status, or anything else. You can meditate (though I highly recommend this for many reasons) till you've tranced away an entire day, you can regress to everything that's hurt you in your life and find all the reasons your parents are to blame for why you are where you are in life, but none of it will get you where you want to be.
The first step is always going to be figuring out what makes you happy. Media tells us it's the perfect body, car, relationship, income level, and health status. But none of that matters.
Ask yourself, "What makes me want to jump out of bed in the morning? What makes me feel alive when I do it and I can't wait to return? What have I always dreamt of doing?"
Then the second step is to go for it. That's it. Fail! Fall! Be afraid! Possibly let your entire life blow-up, but don't quit. They're might be programs and books along the way that teach you what you need to know - time management; how to market; coaches for sports; and many others, but these tools will never tell you how to be happy or give you motivation. Instead, you'll move from a place of fun and joy.
For the last five years I've had no idea what I was doing. There have been times when I tried those techniques others said would change my life. But the only thing that has gotten me to complete 91 of my biggest dreams and to keep pursuing everything is to simply do it. I'd never been in marketing or publicity. I'd never thrown a huge launch party. I hadn't traveled to many of the places I wanted to see. And hell, I wasn't certain I'd be good enough to publish a novel. But it turns out I can do all of this and more.
You're no different than me. There's nothing wrong with you. You don't have to fix anything. You simply need to decide what you want and go for it.